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Happy September and the beginning to some cooler weather - hopefully ;-),
WARNING: the following are thought provoking questions. "Why Do You Love?" Is it to be loved or because you just love? Are you looking for something in return for your loving? Do withhold love because of past experiences and is it only from certain people?
I recently had a conversation regarding loving; do we love for loving's sake or withhold love because someone said or did something that was mean, hurtful, or a lie. I was thinking about this conversation as I was journaling this morning and what I received was perfect and yet perplexing.
Here was my question that started it all: How does me holding onto resentments, judgements, hate, anger, memories of wrong doings, interpretations of actions, righteous indignation, serve me in my everyday walk? The depth of my love (unconditional or not) speaks volumes of me, NOT the person I am giving love to.
I was reminded that love is a gift not something someone earns.
If my love is contingent upon how someone reciprocates what is that saying about my love? How someone reacts (coming from fear) or responds (coming from love) to my love speaks volumes of them and the depth of their fear or love. How I react or respond to their reaction or response is ON ME, NOT them.
As I said before, I find this perfect and perplexing. I am in awe of the simplicity of it and the complexity I make of it.
My defense of the rejection I perceive or interpret is a protection of my tender heart which creates my lack of TRUST in myself as well as others to who I give love. Remembering again, love is a gift not something some earns.
Here is my process: trust that I can handle and capable of giving and receiving love (no strings, no conditions) and if it is rejected it is because the other cannot receive it for whatever reason and if it is received it may come with conditions or strings. There is no judgement only choice of where to go from there.
You may be wondering or asking WHY - better yet, ask yourself what is the purpose in asking WHY or how does that serve me other than to justify my reaction or response. I (nor they) may never know the true WHY or even understand it. If you feel the need to ask WHY, come from curiosity and discovery. Notice if you are feeling defensive and what you're making it mean about you, which in all truth isn't personal unless you say so.
Last, but by no means least, I embrace that I am always at choice to love; how I give it, receive it, withhold it, and to/from whom. This brought me some clarity perhaps it will do the same for you.
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